What does “discovering your destiny” mean?
According to the dictionary, the word “destiny” is defined as: “the fate to which a person or thing is destined”; and the word “fate” is defined as: “the final result or outcome”.
Basically, your destiny is a predetermined plan of whatever life you were born to lead. Each of us was born with a unique set of personality traits, likes and dislikes, and talents. We are all the same, yet different.
Each of us is predestined to lead a particular life. Fulfilling your destiny involves more than just trudging off to work every day, putting in time till you can retire, it is the whole “package” such as working in the right career, living in the right city, having the right partner or soul mate in your life, and being in touch with as well as living your passions. Unfortunately, most people spend their lives existing, not living!
Anytime you steer away from fulfilling your destiny you automatically bring unhappiness and eventual failure to yourself. It is only by discovering your true self that you can even begin to envision your destiny: what lays ahead and what you are meant to accomplish during your lifetime. Maybe you are meant to be a great musician like Mozart, a great writer like Charles Dickens, or a great leader like Joan of Arc or Alexander the Great. You will never know what you are meant to do, until you take the time and make the effort to find out!
Seven (7) signs that your destiny (your life’s purpose) is trying to get your attention:
1) Is your “fake” or “phoney” life beginning to fall apart?
Explanation: You have set up a carefully staged life that you know is not real – it’s basically fake or phoney. You knew that when you set it up, as you purposely chose image instead of substance. Now it is beginning to fall apart, and events are taking place of which you have no control.
Example: You are a 26-year old male, and you have known from a very young age that you are gay, but you live in denial. You meet a nice woman who falls in love with you. She thinks that she has met her soulmate. You then get married to please your parents and to do what you think society expects of you. Such a marriage would be possible if you were either straight or bisexual, but you’re not either of them. Two years later, your wife divorces you and runs off with another woman. Who says that God doesn’t have a sense of humor!
2) Do you feel frustrated more often, for no legitimate reason?
Explanation: You feel a lingering frustration with your life, and find yourself getting angry more often than usual, many times for no specific reason or over something trivial.
Example: You stop by your favorite coffee shop to get your usual coffee, and the clerk behind the counter gets your order wrong. When you realize the clerk’s error, you yell at him and accuse him of being stupid. He’s only 16 years old, the same age as your son. You apologize to him and walk away wondering why you acted that way.
3) Do you hate your job to the point where you don’t even want to go to work?
Explanation: You have a decent job that you have always been content with, and now suddenly you find yourself hating it to the point that you can’t bear to go there. Once at work, you are looking at the time on your cell phone or watch waiting for the day to be done. At day’s end, every bit of energy seems to be drained from you: physically, psychologically, and even spiritually. Your week-end is spent trying to recouperate from the past work week.
Example: You have been a model employee: rarely away ill, always on time, and work hard. Your employer pays you well, and you have no complaints about the working conditions. Everything seems to be going well (i.e. business as usual), till one day you just decide that you hate your job and don’t want to be there anymore, for no explainable reason.
4) Are you getting sick more often than usual?
Explanation: Generally, you have always had good health, but now you find yourself getting sick more often, for no explainable reason.
Example: You eat well and exercise regularly. Lately, however, you seem to be getting a cold or the flu far more than usual. Whenever someone at the office where you work is sick, you are sure to get what that person has. You go to your doctor’s office, but all of the tests show that there is nothing wrong with you.
5) Are unexplainable events happening that seem to be pushing you in a certain direction?
Explanation: You have a particular action plan on what you want to accomplish and you are successful in implementing it. Then, several weeks later an unforeseen event happens that reverses your accomplishment, and you find yourself back at “square one”! At roughly the same time an unexpected opportunity arises which can take your life in a different direction.
Example: You have saved money for years to buy your own condominium. No more renting for you! You put a deposit on a condo and buy it. This is where you are going to spend the rest of your life, you say to yourself. The area in which you bought the condo is not a place that excites you, but it’s okay – it’s liveable. You move into your new home, and everything seems to be going well, till six weeks later you receive a notice from the building inspector that the condo’s strata council hired. The notice informs you that the entire building is a “leaky condo” and will cost a lot of money to fix. You are forced to sell your condo, and find yourself having to move back to a rental apartment — right back where you started! You explain your situation to your friends. Several days later your best friend tells you about a great apartment for rent in his neighborhood, a place that you really like. The apartment is yours if you want it!
6) Do you have sporadic flashes of inspiration or visions?
Explanation: From out of nowhere, you periodically get flashes of inspiration. For a few seconds you see yourself with someone or doing something totally different (out of the ordinary). It’s as though someone or something is reaching out to you trying to get your attention.
Example: You are the sole single woman amongst your friends. The dating scene in your town in Idaho is a nightmare, and after many failed attempts at finding true love (i.e. your soulmate) you decide to take a vacation to relax and get away from your usual life. You are planning to go to Seattle, Washington, but you keep getting visions of palm trees and people hula dancing. You decide to follow your visions and change your travel plans to Hawaii where you meet the man of your dreams, and the strange thing is: he’s from your hometown back in Idaho! Imagine that! What a coincidence!
7) Are you tired of accepting second best and yearn for a better life?
Explanation: Up until now you’ve always just accepted whatever has happened to you in life. While your life is okay, it’s not really what you want and need. You’re not ungrateful, you’re just tired of accepting second best in many areas of your life.
Example: You work hard and are a model employee. A job promotion becomes available in your place of work and you put your name forward as a candidate to be the manager. You have worked for the company for 5 years and know its operations better than anyone. The General Manager calls you into her office to tell you that you didn’t get the manager’s job, but the company is pleased to make you the Assistant Manager. Since the new manager is not currently employed with your company, your most important task will be to train him for however long it takes. Given your work ethic and job skills, it’s fairly obvious that it may be time for you to move on to “greener pastures”!
Do you need subtle, consistent reminders to get your life in order or do you need to be “bitch slapped”?
Explanation: You may be fairly receptive to what the universe (i.e. God) is trying to tell you to do and you may be able to implement the necessary changes slowly but consistently. If you have that type of personality, then the universe only needs to give you a gentle, consistent nudge in order to move you forward.
On the other hand, you may have the type of personality who ignores the signs that change needs to take place in your life, and you consistently turn your back on these signs. In such situations, the universe may have no other recourse but to “bitch slap” you in order to get your attention, and it may be necessary to do it more than once!
For example, many men can be quite stubborn, if not ignorant of what is going on around them. They just coast along not thinking of what lies ahead of them. To make matters worse, men, in general, consume far more alcohol (i.e. drink more booze) and smoke more dope (i.e. marijuana) than women in order to escape from their issues and problems. Under such circumstances, it’s very difficult to get their attention; hence the need for the universe to “bitch slap” them. Sometimes it can be quite drastic, but it definitely gets their attention!
Example: You are a 30-year old male who has had family problems for as long as you can remember. Instead of dealing with your problems (e.g. going for counseling), you prefer to smoke marijuana every evening when you get home from work. It relaxes you, and helps you to forget about your problems. Unfortunately, it also prevents you from getting over your problems–it keeps you stuck in the past unable to move forward! Your friends have consistently tried to get you to stop smoking dope and face your issues, but you refuse. Your place of work offers free counseling (no questions asked) to its employees for any issue, but you always have an excuse to not take advantage of that service.
One night you are smoking dope in your bedroom, as usual, when you decide to go into the living room. You fall asleep on the sofa. Unexpectedly, your dope which burns like a cigarette falls from the ashtray and sets the bedroom carpet on fire. A while later your best friend happens to be walking by your apartment building and notices the smoke pouring out of your bedroom window. He races into the building and pulls you out of your apartment. You have smoke inhalation, but you are okay. Your apartment, however, has been completely destroyed by the fire. You have just been “bitch slapped”! You now have a choice to make: either deal with your issues, or be “bitch slapped” again. It’s your decision!
Remarkable Men & Women: People Who Have Followed Their Destiny and Made a Difference!
While writing the book “How to Create the Life You Want: Redesigning Your Life” (refer to the “Life Planning Book” section of this website), I thought of several remarkable men and women who have been exceptional role models: people who knew what they wanted in life, and went out and did it! They are true pioneers, an inspiration to others who want to find their true destiny or purpose in life and then to live it each and every day, being true to themselves and having no regrets! That is something that each of us should aspire to! Stop being envious of others, and use the incredible power within yourself to be the person that you are meant to be! Be real, accept yourself, and live the kind of life that you want and need! Stop giving control over your life to others, and start taking control over your own life! Plan for the future that you want; otherwise your future will be molded by others, which will never bring you happiness and success!
1) Jean Cavanagh: An Irish-American Opera Singer from San Francisco, California. A Feminist Pioneer!
This is one of the people I dedicated my book to (the one described in the “Life Planning Book” section of this website), my American grandmother, Jean Cavanagh. This photo was taken when she lived in Dawson City during the Klondike Gold Rush. She used to sing opera to the gold miners, men who had come from all over the world, but particularly from the USA to make their fortune in the Klondike gold fields.
At the age of 16 years old she left San Francisco, California with her sister aboard a steamship to join the men and also make her fame and fortune in the Klondike.
As she used to say: “In my day, men were men, and women were women. We didn’t need some man’s permission to live the life we wanted. We were perfectly capable of making our own way!” That she did! She was without doubt a feminist pioneer, living many, many decades ahead of the Women’s Liberation Movement! What makes her life even more remarkable is that she grew up in Utah and was raised a Mormon. Her family moved to the USA from Belfast, Ireland in 1893 when she was just 3 years old. She was one of the first people to emigrate to the USA via Ellis Island (the American federal government’s immigration clearing facility in New York City, which opened in 1892). Only 17% of the current American population can trace their family lineage back to Ellis Island. How amazing that even at a young age she was a pioneer in moving to the USA to start a new life. Her father, William Cavanagh, was a prominent leader within the Mormon Church. Given her conservative upbringing, it is truly remarkable that she was so strong willed and independent minded. At the age of 16 years, she already had her own career, following her passion to sing opera, and was financially independent. Many men within Dawson City sought her hand in marriage, only to be quite surprised to be told that she didn’t need a man to take care of her! Her exceptional life and pioneering spirit have truly been an inspiration to me and many others!
2) Steve Grand: An Amazing Country Singer from Chicago, Illinois
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Steve Grand is a remarkable young man from Chicago, Illinois. He has been described as America’s first openly gay male country singer. Only 26 years old, he has cleverly marketed himself by means of the internet to such an extent, that his career has gone from obscurity to celebrity status almost overnight!
His first hit “All-American Boy” rocketed him to fame, and in just over a week had more than 1 million views on YouTube. The music video that introduced this song was produced and financed by himself. He may have gone into debt producing it, but it paid off! He is now one of the “hottest” male singers on the market! His sex appeal and talent make him hard to miss! Once you watch one of his videos, you are hooked! (For a sample of his talent, click onto the “Stay” video by Steve Grand in the Male Sexuality section of this website.)
Though he is currently basking in celebrity status, his life has been an incredible journey: one of hardship, disappointment, and determination. He grew up in a Catholic home. At the age of 13 years, he realized that he was gay. When he confided this to his parents, they sent him to counselling, so that he could embrace the heterosexual lifestyle (i.e. stop being gay, and turn straight). He spent his entire high school years in counselling being told that he was on the wrong path and should conform to what society expected him to be. His parents were so worried about him being gay that they didn’t even want him leaving the house, except to go to school. You can imagine what that did for his self-esteem! Somehow, against all odds, Steve stayed true to himself and came out at the age of 19.
From a very early age, he found comfort in music. At the age of 11, he started writing music, finding inspiration from many of the early British bands like The Beatles and the Rolling Stones. For a while after high school, he attended the University of Illinois, but dropped out to pursue his real passion in life: music. By following his passion and by having the courage and determination to not give up, he has attracted success and fame like a magnet! He has inadvertently discovered the secret of success!